“Gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained in a righteous life.” Proverbs 16:31
I am turning 40 years old next month. For some reason, I am scared out of my mind. It just doesn’t sound young anymore. If I hear others say they are 40+, I don’t think they are old. It just sounds old for me. I believe the lie that I should be more successful or in a different place in my life than where I am now.
Our society loves youth. Youth is important in sports, in professional acting, in climbing the corporate ladder. We want to look younger, so we don’t get passed over for a career position or dumped by our significant other. The elderly are treated as a burden and put into nursing homes.
There is a lady named, Anne. She is a therapist for marriage and families. She is in her mid-seventies and still works. I came to know her because I was suffering from postpartum depression. She raised 7 children, so I knew she could help me. I came to learn that she became a therapist when she was almost 50 years old. It was after most of her children grew and the youngest was in high school. When most people are in the thick of their careers, she was just starting. She had life experiences and knowledge to offer people. It didn’t matter to me that she started later in life. She was good at what she did.
I was talking to a friend of mine and I mentioned the anxiety of turning 40. He laughed and said, “well I am 47 years old and I know that God’s best is yet to come. I feel so excited.” He went on the say that his wife (my dear friend too) told him how happy she was that he realized that it is never too late to do what God wants for him. How could I write myself off, when God hasn’t?
Maybe I feel old because I can’t go into that store Hollister. It is too dark, the perfume is overwhelming, the music is too loud and their clothes are made for people without hips. I would rather watch a sporting event at home instead of live and canceled plans feels like a gift. Even the time I eat dinner at a restaurant is considered the early bird time, it is okay. The main thing to realize is that life is far from done at 40. The best is yet to come and God is not done with me.
Lesson Learned: Welcoming age with wisdom is more valuable than chasing youth.
“Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of life. Forgive me for always comparing myself to others and being disappointed. Show me Lord, what you have for me. Remind me that age is just a number and that you can use me at any age. Help me prioritize my time better and to focus on what you want me to do. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”