“He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous are both alike an abomination to the Lord.” Proverbs 17:15
A counselor gave me a piece of wise advice, “gather information before you give any out.” I assume she said that because she saw my pattern of talking before I knew all the details. Unfortunately, I’m still making the same mistake.
There is a beautiful walking path around a little lake that I enjoy visiting. Sometimes, we stop at the play area for our daughter to get her wiggles out. As we walked onto the playground, there was another family. The mom seemed nervous and upset.
That mom came over to me and asked if I had a cell phone to call the association’s security. She began to tell me how she saw two teenaged boys, snuck through a hole in the fence, steal two kayaks from the rental area and they went out on the lake. I looked up the association’s phone number and called their security. The other mom kept giving me more and more details.
Meanwhile, her husband comes over and hears his wife talking to me and sees that I am on the phone. He says, “they didn’t steal anything, someone was working at the clubhouse and assisted them with the kayaks.” She says, “what?! I didn’t see that.” He said, “I saw them, you walked off before you saw the employee come over.” I abruptly stopped the call and apologized to the security and hung up the phone. The woman looked at me and says, “Whoops…sorry!” I held my tongue and walked away.
That situation may not have been my fault, because I didn’t make the initial assumption, but I could’ve asked some more questions. But for whatever reason, numerous times, I have assumed something and start spreading the word over a situation I did not have full knowledge. How many times do we see the news media do this over a developing event? To then have the information back tracked about what really happened?
I am very guilty of wanting to be the first to know. However, after this situation at the park, I try to wait and gather more information. There is no reason to cause more problems.
Lesson Learned: Collect information before taking action.
“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for making the wrong assumptions and creating more problems. Give me discernment to know when something is fact or a lie. Help me to remain calm and make smart choices. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”