“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those He loves.” Proverbs 3:11-12
When you love someone, especially a child, you want to take care of all of their needs. You don’t want them to feel pain or fail. It is easy to do everything for them instead of letting them do it themselves.
My husband is a middle school math teacher. The students are still young and immature but think they know everything. One Friday afternoon, my husband came home with a migraine. He took a nap hoping to sleep it off. Just as he fell asleep, I heard a person yelling outside of our front gate for us to open the door.
I looked out the window and recognized the man from a neighborhood Halloween party from a few months back. I went outside, and he asked if this is where my husband lived and he wanted to speak to him. When I said, it was our home; he explained that his son needed to turn in a math assignment or he couldn’t go to the concert that night. The father was there to deliver that assignment.
I stood there, floored. Many thoughts were running through my head, such as, how did he know where we lived? This father had some nerve coming to a teacher’s home unannounced to turn in an assignment for his kid. And maybe he should let his kid feel the pain so that he doesn’t do it again.
In my anger, I lied (sorry, Lord!) and said he wasn’t home. The father seems displeased and ask if I could take the assignment and give it to my husband. I accepted the homework and closed the door. His son is never going to take responsibility because he father will always clean up his mess after him.
I realized that I do that with God. I expect God’s grace to ignore my sins and still take care of me. God has a big heart and is full of grace. But there are times where God will let us suffer the consequences and feel the pain of our sinful actions. It seems strange, but this is a way to display love. If we make our kids feel the pain of missing out because of their mistakes, then they learn and become more responsible. When God allows us to feel the pain from our sin, we then will try not to continue to sin and come to a place of redemption.
Lesson Learned: Sometimes we have to feel the pain to have growth in our lives; otherwise we will never change.
“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for my sins. Help me to learn from my mistakes. Thank you for loving me and for your discipline. Remind me to do what is right than ignore responsibility. Help us who are parents and teachers to do the same for our kids. In Jesus’