“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.” Isaiah 43:2
This verse can be used as a source of hope in with dealing with major trials. When I read this verse, however, it spoke to me in dealing with fights among our family and close friends. It still amazes me how the enemy uses them to hurt one another. How many times has there been an argument over something that seems so insignificant and the enemy uses it as an opportunity to expose a deeper problem? They forgot to throw away the empty juice container or give you an important phone message and the argument spirals into, you don’t care at all about me, I am worthless. I have seen families jump in on social media comments about a post about kittens and then decide to put you on blast in front of the world about how they feel you are crazy or stupid or air your dirty laundry. What the what?!
We expect them to love us unconditionally and support us. Some family members feel they have free reign to speak hurtful words because of who they are to us, but it is harmful at best. You can lovingly explain how their choices could end up hurting them or disagree with their opinion without trying to destroy their self worth. But it does not work out this way. The following quote speaks volumes of truth.
“Hurt people hurt people. We are not being judgmental by separating ourselves from such people. But we should do so with compassion. Compassion is defined as a “keen awareness of the suffering of another coupled with a desire to see it relieved.” People hurt others as a result of their own inner strife and pain. Avoid the reactive response of believing they are bad; they already think so and are acting that way. They aren’t bad; they are damaged and they deserve compassion. Note that compassion is an internal process, an understanding of the painful and troubled road trod by another. It is not trying to change or fix that person.”
I believe that through God, anyone can be changed and be redeemed. I know it is difficult being the bigger person because of all the pain they caused. But we can ask God to guard us and keep us safe and carry us through all our trials without being damaged. Sometime we talk to others about our problems it may feel like is helping, but it ends up as gossip. Last time I checked, gossip is not a part of the Lord’s plan.
Dear Heavenly Father,
Help me Lord to look past people’s harmful actions and words and see they are broken. Please quench the fiery arrows of the enemy and place your protective shield around me. I renounce any word curses brought upon me or my family and render them inoperative. Help me to be forgiving and to offer love towards these people. Remind me to give people grace as you do for me. Help me laugh into the face of evil and know You Lord will always prevail.
In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!