“Surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins.” Ecclesiastes 7:20
One of the desires I have for my child, is for her to never feel pain. (Feel free to laugh out loud.) If I tell her what to do in a certain situation and she still chooses to do the opposite and gets hurt, I am angry at her choice. One of the hardest thing to do as a parent of a young child is to let them suffer consequences. I want to fix it and make them not feel any pain. I realize that this is one of the greatest faults I can commit. (Obviously, there are some non negotiable situations: if there is a seat belt-you wear it, wear a helmet while bike riding, etc. If she could be wrapped in bubble wrap, I would do it.)
My daughter was having one of those weeks. Every choice she made, she chose a bad one. One day, she came home after school and was crying. She told me she got into trouble at school. She explained what she did. This all occurred in one class time: she talked back to the substitute teacher two times, she ran in the classroom fighting with another student to get the class basketball for recess, and she refused to go sit with the class on the carpet. YIKES! I received a phone call from her teacher on Saturday Morning telling me what happened. She was punished by her father and I at home and by her teacher at school. It was also a 3 day weekend, so it was quite long and boring for her. I was told that the following week at school was much better. She learned that her bad actions bring consequences, the old saying, “you reap what you sow”.
I do wish I could have a re-do for many of my mistakes. But many times my mistakes were my greatest teacher. We have to experience failure to learn and change. We cannot be afraid to make mistakes, because we will never try at all. I have to see my mistakes as blessings. I created a solution to that particular problem because there was a mistake to begin with. We can recall our mistakes to make sure we choose wisely in a situation but God never wants our mistakes to torment us.
“Dear Heavenly Father, despite the hurt and pain I feel, I am thankful for learning from these mistakes. I break off perfectionism and control over aspects of my life that I truly cannot control. I rebuke worry and shame from failing at things I encounter in life. I pray for heavenly guidance and a clear mind. I am thankful that your perfect love casts out all fear. In Jesus’ Name. AMEN!”