“Yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes.” James 4:14
Have you ever seen a person you wanted to ask something to, but you feel like they will reject you? Whether it was in my single days talking to a cute guy or even asking a question to a stranger, I wanted someone to do the asking for me. I hated the idea of potential rejection. Unfortunately, not taking the risk comes with something worse: regret.
When my daughter was a baby, I went grocery shopping. This was the first time, I was using a grocery cart cover. I had no idea how to put it on. It came with these safety straps and hooks. One seemed to need an engineering degree to attach it to the cart. It is also difficult to attempt to put it on while holding a wiggly baby. I noticed a woman with her baby who had the same grocery cart cover going into the store. I wanted to ask for her help. But as I approached her, I stopped and changed my mind. She was very beautiful and appeared to already be at her pre-pregnancy weight. She dressed nice, her hair and make -up were done. She fit the So. California mold. However, I looked like a hot mess and was trying to hurry the shopping trip because I could feel the “let down” was fast approaching. (Nursing mamas, know this all too well.) Then, I thought I need help and she was my answer, so I am going to ask her regardless of what my notions were of her.
I approached her and asked if she could help me with the cart cover. She ended up being so nice and helpful. She showed me what to do and even put the cover on for me. We walked into the store together, talked for a bit and then we exchanged phone numbers because we found out we lived less than 2 miles from each other. We went on our separate ways.
Then, I thought, am I ever going to talk to her again? I thought maybe she was just nice but didn’t care to get to know me. I waited to see if she would call first. A few weeks went by, so I decided to call her first. I was so nervous, because this would be the risk, I hated taking because I didn’t want to be rejected. But I kept feeling the Lord tell me it was okay to call her. So I did. She remembered me right away and we arranged a little meet up with our daughters. That was 8 years ago and we still are friends! Whenever we meet each other’s mutual friends, they always ask where we know each other. When I say we met at the supermarket, it always makes people laugh because it is so random.
For me being an introvert, this was a huge step to reach out first to someone. I think many of us have difficulty dealing with rejection and we just don’t want to try. If I didn’t approach her, I would have never had her friendship. I can’t imagine not ever knowing this wonderful person and am so thankful for her. I know the Lord wants us to never feel unworthy of talking to people. Also having the confidence that even if they did not want to get to know us, then it probably saved us a lot of grief!
So now, when I see a person with a cute haircut or clothes, etc. I just go over and compliment them and start a conversation. I still get a little nervous, but 9 times out of 10, it usually is worth the risk.
Lesson Learned: It is better to risk, whether the outcome is good or bad, than regret not taking a chance for life.
“Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for giving me the confidence to take risks in this life. I pray that if the risk did not turn out well, that you would redeem it and fill it with your promises. Thank you for the amazing people I know in my life and for those I haven’t met yet. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”