“Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.” Hebrews 10:22
Guilt…Us mothers lay it on thick to our children. We use guilt to make others feel bad or believing we can create positive change. We guilt ourselves over our dark past. Just another tactic from the enemy to keep us from growing stronger in the Lord.
I joined a Women’s Bible Study at church. After the main sermon, we are separated into small groups. At the end of the group, there was a time for prayer requests. A woman named Mary (name change) shared her current life situation. She had a lot going on. She was in emotional pain and was exhausted.
Over the next few weeks, Mary would ask for more prayers about her situation. But she would always be guilt ridden for feeling exhausted about her situation. She retired from a job she loved to move cities, so she could better take care of her husband due to his illness. She just named 3 of the most stressful situations any human could endure. She said people were telling her she shouldn’t feel upset about any of it. She should be happy to be retired and move to a nice city. Are you kidding me? What are people thinking? And now she is feeling bad for not feeling the way they say she should? Oh please.
I mailed her a card of encouragement, telling her to be gentle with herself. It broke my heart to have her think she could not allow herself to be angry, scared or tired over all the change. My hope was for her to know, we are praying for her and her husband and that she can allow herself to be tired and rest. She thanked me in person for the card and she said it came at the right time.
It is so easy to do a blanket judgement over people’s situations when we do not know every detail. We think people should be able to get over situations quickly and move on. I have noticed people who are struggling, they don’t always need an answer, they usually just need to vent. When we are feeling guilt, anger, frustration, whatever…God is there with open arms and open ears to hear us. God is a good Father. He loves us and help us through all struggles.
Lesson Learned: Let’s kick the guilt out of our lives.
“Dear Heavenly Father, I give you those guilty feelings in my life. Help me to know the difference between guilt and conviction. I thank you Lord you are carrying me through all of life’s storms. Lord, when I ask for forgiveness, help me to move on and not ruminate over my past. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”