“In all toil there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.” Proverbs 14:23
There are days where I would like everything done for me. Someone to clean the house, fold the laundry, go to work, pick up the kid, walk the dog, fix broken things, cook the meals…everything. That would be fun for a couple of days because I would feel useless after a while.
Many moons ago, I worked for a dental office. One of my jobs was to collect payments from the patients. Most people were on time and complaint free, but there was always a select few that got dental work done and decided not to pay.
We had a young woman patient that chose the latter option. She came in for an exam, X-rays and cleaning. The exam determined that she needed more dental work and gave her the estimate. I asked for a payment for the services she incurred but told me she didn’t have any money with her. The dentist, of course, was unhappy and said, she cannot book another appointment until she pays. After numerous voice messages, we heard nothing for a few weeks.
The young woman came into the office unannounced and asked if she could be seen by the dentist because she was in pain. I explained we were booked and she could be seen tomorrow but she would have to pay her bill today. She gave me a nasty look and said, “my boyfriend pays for everything, so you need to deal with him.” Too many thoughts came to mind of what I wanted to say to her. So I replied, “what is his phone number, let’s call him and he can pay your balance now.” She said, “never mind” and ran out of the office. Of course, she never returned and was sent to collection.
Even if her story was true about her boyfriend paying for everything, I thought what must she do to keep up that charade? She had cuteness and youth on her side, but after a while, that gets old. But she will be dumped or live a life as a mooch. That incident happened, about 15 years ago, when I was still young and cute. So, I knew I didn’t want to ever be like that to my parents or my husband.
I wanted to live a life, where I was financially responsible and able to figure things out on my own. Yes, I am married and have my husband to take care of things that I am uncertain of being able to accomplish. Yet, I see some wives trust their husbands to take care of everything. And when their husbands either leaves or passes on, they find themselves lost.
Recently, God has impressed on my heart to have some courage and figure things out that I usually leave my husband to do. I always want things done yesterday, and my husband likes to let things collect dust before he finishes with it. One of those things is with the maintenance of my car.
I was getting an oil change at the dealer and the service writer told me that my cabin air filter needed to be replaced. There happened to have that price listed on a board behind him. I saw they wanted $79 for this to be changed so I declined. The service writer explained the importance of it but I told him I would take care of it myself. He gave me that look of “you are a woman, so you can’t do it”. So, that made me want to do it even more.
I drove to the nearest auto parts store and told them what I needed. I figured YouTube or Google would have instructions on what to do. The young man behind the counter asked me if I was doing this myself. I told him yes and this was his reply, “Well you are going to feel like a boss! Good for you! It always feels good to do things yourself. Plus you are going to save yourself a lot of money.”
I went home and looked up the information on-line. This was the whole procedure: pulled out the glove box, take out the old filter, put in the new one and put the glove box back in. That was it. Even though it wasn’t some big job like changing my flat tire or the oil, it was still an accomplishment for me since I saved $52.
God instructs us on the importance of work. Take that step of courage and try to do something yourself. I was happy that I did.
Lesson Learned: You never know how much you have in you until you have to do something by yourself.
“Dear Heavenly Father, give me the wisdom and tools to work hard. I rebuke laziness and fear that keep me from doing things that are or seem challenging. May I be a good steward of all that you have given me in my life. In Jesus’ Mighty Name, AMEN!”