When People Disappoint

“He heals the broken in heart and binds their wounds.” Psalms 147:3

My child has just started 4th grade.  She loves her teacher and seems to desire to do well in school.  Unfortunately, she is having trouble socially.  She has been coming home sad that she lost a friendship.  It is hard to watch.

As a parent, all I want to do is fix the problem for her.  I want to make the hurting she is feeling, to stop.  Yet, deep down I know, this something we all go through in our lives.  These situations build character.

I may be hurt by this more than she. It stirs up a lot of old wounds where I was rejected by friends growing up.  I have done everything within my parental power to try to fix this situation, but nothing has helped.  

Then I came across this photo on Facebook and it came at the right time.  This photo is a great lesson for letting go.

 

        

There are seasons in life, where we  just have to let people or things go.  This can be friendships, relationships with family, a spouse or a significant other, commitments at work or school.  My daughter may have to let this relationship go.  I have to let go of trying to control that I think I have and let my daughter experience life as it is, hurtful and messy.   So, the only option maybe to walk away when we have tried our best to save it.  As difficult as it maybe, life isn’t fair.

We learn we have to cleave to God, when people disappoint us.  Otherwise, our situations or circumstances will continue to drag us down.  We pray for healing of our wounds and restoration in our life.  God never wastes any pain we experience.  God has something or someone better for us in the future.  

America has been going through some tough times.  This country is divided politically on many issues.  Both sides are relentless in their pursuit of trying to prove each other wrong.  It has been bad for the last couple of years and even uglier in the past month.  People are disappointing one another in record levels.  

Recently, North America (as well as other places in the world) have been encountering many natural disasters: hurricanes, flooding, wildfires, and major earthquakes.  In the wake of these natural disasters, we have been seeing strangers being kind to one another and people helping out in anyway they can.  They are giving food, water and shelter to those in need.  Many are putting their lives in danger to rescue others.  The human spirit is alive again.  

Seeing this example of love gives me hope that love truly conquers all.  We can still love someone or something after you have let them go.   And letting go of that someone or something, shows you love yourself.  Let’s learn to love ourselves enough to not be hurt or disappointed, is one of the greatest gifts.

Lesson Learned:  When people disappoint, let go and let God.

Prayer:

“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for putting my hope in people or circumstances.  Help me to forgive those who have treated me or my family bad.  Let anger, turn to love.  Show me compassion for myself to let go and move on.  Give me discernment when to let things go and when to fight for them.  Help me to remember the season of letting go is short and that you will bring forth a beautiful Spring.  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”

Decluttering the Mind

“Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious.  If there is any excellence and if there is anything that is worthy of praise,, think about these things.”  Philippians 4:8

 

Admission time…I have anger issues and I am not proud of it.  I use bad words.   Flip my lid.  Yell and scream at my husband, our child and strangers.  I leave passive aggressive notes for my neighbors.  This is a very dangerous road to be on.

 

I arrived at church with a knot in my stomach.  The past 2 weeks haven’t been my best physically.  I threw out my back, had a migraine for 3 days and now my stomach burned.  And to top it all off,  the weather was  100+ degrees for one of those entire weeks.  Plus, I was angry at everything.  It didn’t matter the reason, large or small, I was angry.

 

As I got out of the car, I saw my friend.  She is a mighty prayer warrior.  I consider her my spiritual mother due to her strength and spiritual wisdom.  I asked for prayer.  She prayed and tears streamed down my face and I began to tremble from all the anger that I had been holding on to from the past, let alone the past two weeks.

 

My friend knows I am a minimalist at heart.   She told me it is time to do some decluttering of my mind.  My friends said remove the thoughts that are working against you, not for you.  Think of the way Jesus sees you, more eternal, less earthly thoughts.  The day changed from there.  I enjoyed the church service, my stomach stopped hurting and it was a day of rest from those thoughts.

 

Today I read the following quote in a Bible devotional, “Whatever you believe on the inside will manifest on the outside.”  Most times, anger, anxiety, fear, depression manifests in us physically.  My back, my head and my stomach were all being attacked because I was allowing anger’s energy to control me.

 

The world today thrives on anger.  People are short fused and it reflects in society.  My hope for the near future is that I can use anger in a useful way.  If I see injustice, I try to come up with a possible solution.  But most importantly, I don’t let the angry thoughts consume me and manifest and to also pray and lean on the Lord.

Lesson Learned:  Think of what is true and good and the mind will be renewed.

Prayer:

“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for letting my thoughts over take my mind.  Forgive me for dwelling on the past and relying on my own strength.  Remind me when I begin to give in to anger.  Give me a renewed mind, like the mind of Christ.  Change my focus on what is eternal.  In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”