“A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.” Proverbs 18:2
My father gave me a piece of advice that helps me every day. He advised, “whenever you hear information, consider the source.” We receive tons of information day in and day out. Filtering out what is correct or wrong, can be exhausting. The same comes from people, especially those we know and love.
A few months ago, I did something I am not proud of. I got furious at a friend for something which was minor, an emoji on a text. That’s right, an emoji. There are formatting issues between Android and Apple phones. In this case, a friend sent me a long group text on her iPhone, and I received it on my Android. The text came in jumbled. In the past, I mentioned this to her, hoping she would remember. But, again, of all things to get upset at, this is what I chose.
Unfortunately, I chose via text to unload on her. She called me the next day to explain that she didn’t mean to ignore my request on purpose but to understand that I was out of line to be so rude to her. This friend was also dealing with a family emergency that would stress anyone out. Instead of pausing and apologizing, I continued to get rubbed the wrong way. The conversation ended without resolution and more anger.
The next day, the conviction of the Lord came down on me. That advice my father gave me many years ago, “consider the source” popped into my head. My friend loves me dearly and only wants to see me grow in the Lord. She would never intentionally hurt me. The remorse I felt came like a wave crashing over me. I tried to make things right and ask for forgiveness. I knew I would be crying, so I sent her another text begging for mercy. Thankfully, she received the apology well.
The enemy knows where it hurts. I have this fear of being accepted and loved by others. Many times, I have been taken advantage of or severely disappointed. So, I take every look, comment given to heart. My trust has been low. But if we ask ourselves to consider the source before we comment, we can save ourselves unnecessary arguments or riffs and have open communication and not be afraid to say something.
Lesson Learned: Consider the source and before you make your decision to act.
“Dear Heavenly Father, forgive me for overacting on comments made. Help me to determine what is true and noble. Let the little things roll off of me, so they do not take root in my heart and mind. Help to forgive these minor instances quickly and to communicate. Thank you, Lord, for wisdom and strength. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”