“It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured.” 1 Corinthians 13:5
Jesus came to the Earth to die for our sins. His ministry was of reconciliation. Once the sin was confessed, it was forgiven, and healing would take place. However, we get in the way of that. We say we forgive but we hardly forget.
A couple of weeks ago, professional golfer, Tiger Woods played in The Masters golf tournament. He won the tournament and it was hailed as his comeback. He was back on top. The crowds at the tournament and the media were in adoration. A few years ago, the adoration was not there for Tiger, just hate and ridicule. And I was a part of that.
When I was in college, Tiger Woods turned pro. I was so excited because he was multiracial, like me and he just seemed like one in a million. Tiger Woods did exceptionally well. He grew more famous, wealthy, and popular. Everything seemed like it was going for him. Then things began to crumble.
Tiger had a few rough years, where he sustained a lot of injuries and required many surgeries. His personal life became front news because of his extra marital affairs and prescription drug abuse. Tiger seemed to have everything and not appreciate it. I didn’t want him to succeed anymore.
As The Master tournament progressed, there was word that Tiger could win the whole thing. Part of me, was rooting for him, but memories of his infidelity came up and the excitement wore off. Tiger came up to the last hole of his round and he was a few strokes away from winning. God said, “Aren’t you glad I don’t throw all your forgiven sins in your face?” Oh the conviction.
After winning, he ran to his family and hugged his son so tight. You could see the love he had for his son. I was genuinely happy for Tiger. He looked so relieved and had much appreciation for this victory. We don’t know the authentic side of famous people. They are people with feelings and regrets. Tiger probably made his peace and asked for forgiveness from those who he hurt.
When we hurt someone, we would not want them to keep record of our wrongs. And when it happens to us, it is important for us to not do that either. Our health depends on learning and practicing true forgiveness.
Everyone loves a good comeback. But sadly, these same people love to harass and bully relentlessly of someone who did something bad. Unforgiveness, is detrimental to one’s health. It may be safer sometimes to not have certain people in our lives. But forgiveness is still necessary. In the wise words of Jay Shetty, “Sometimes you just have to be done. Not mad, not upset. Just done.”
If you need to make a comeback, forgiveness is a good place to start. If someone has righted their wrongs, allow yourself to forgive them and not remember their wrongs.
Lesson Learned: Jesus died for our sins, so we don’t have to remain in bondage to sin or to stay in unforgiveness. Forgiveness is necessary.
“Dear Heavenly Father, reveal to me people who I need to forgive. Help me let go of the pain. Renew my mind, so that my thoughts are honorable. Heal my anxieties and fear towards people. For every tear that was shed, thank you for redeeming me from the pain. In Jesus’ Name, AMEN!”